As Valentine’s Day approaches, it maybe a dreadful day for many Women, as balloons, cards and cuddly toys may be the last thing on their mind. With £1.37 Billion being spent on Valentine’s Day last year, and nearly 70% of the UK, celebrating in some way or another, for many unhappy Single women, Valentine’s Day just can’t be avoided. With an Asteroid expected to hit the Earth on Valentine’s Day by 2046, feelings may of anger and foreboding may be in the air for many unhappy Women, especially if you don’t get a Valentine’s Day card! So, what could happen if Valentine’s Day passes you by every single year, or you didn’t get a perfect Valentine’s Day? For nearly 40% of the UK, it might be time to file for divorce, for unreasonable behaviour. It seems British Valentine’s use Valentine’s Day as a crunch time test.

So how deep is your love? Well, for many, not enough to continue a marriage or relationship, and many prefer to go without, and join the no Valentine’s Day categorization, and would rather go without. With a giant Asteroid aiming for planet Earth on Valentine’s Day, you better watch it!

Miserable Valentine’s Day can be a hugely miserable experience, especially if you’re not dating someone or aren’t happily married. It can make you feel empty and low, stumping you down in front of your peers properly, as they hold a high esteem and emphasis for love and relationships, and those perfect Valentine’s Day presents.

MISERABLE

With so many events lined up for Valentine’s Day, the day can be heartbreaking for many unlucky women. As the pandemic continues however, and people look for a solution, maybe it’s time to consider the negative effects of Valentine’s Day? As the Coronavirus epidemic looms further, Valentine’s Day plans, are now being neatly ticked off as a hazard, potentially spreading the disease further. Maybe, there’s some hope for the loveless? Although, it may not get you a boyfriend, or a card, it may be gratifying to see the Valentine’s Day balloons finally bursting! I’ll have some black Valentine’s Day balloons please, with a pastel macaroon, and a little something for the Valentine’s Day Asteroid.

Many single women, feel extremely low at the thought of Valentine’s Day, and walking past an aisle full of cards only reminds them they haven’t received one yet, or haven’t had one from their boyfriend or husband in years, or it just reminds them of a messy break- up
after a fight or an affair. For many people, Valentine’s Day is just not a happy occasion. Modern love seems fed up of the whole affair too, with more and more instances of domestic violence being reported on the day, than ever before.

Always being cheated on?

According to some stats, one in every five people are
caught having an affair, and nearly 48% of marriages end in a divorce. That’s nearly half of the population within the UK, which means everyone of us is effected by divorce. During Valentine’s Day, the statistics are about 40%, which means it is the most risky time for unhappy couples, and a time when people really think about their relationship, considering divorce from as early as the New Year, and really giving their loved ones an ultimatum by the 14th February. oat couples are upset at the way they are being treated in a relationship, but it is also a time when affairs and cheating surface too.

As the coronavirus pandemic gets longer and longer, these horrid affairs are being surfaced in more than one house, with some brutal results and home truths. Sure takes away some of the pain of being single. However, it’s not all bad news. Divorces and break- ups have actually significantly lowered during the pandemic, as more and
more couples are choosing to stay together.

Boyfriend always betraying you?

It may be inconceivable to you to find that your boyfriend may not be as supportive as you thought, in fact he may be planning to betray you on a regular basis and your friends may be in on it too, with his friends. Sounds so callous? It is? When a crisis like
COVID-19 gets worse an worse, we really have to choose
who we share our worst health with, and that mean’s it’s
crunch time. Inviting your family to a wedding at the moment, means that invites are reserved for real friends only, and other’s may not be as important, and be ticked off the guest list, surfacing true
feelings, and intent.

A happy occasion like Valentine’s Day can make anyone feel bad, but for many single women they just want to
give up on love altogether, and it goes further than avoiding the card stands in Selfridges and the pretty pink
cellophone which wraps up some of the best presents ever seen, with a complimentary free bow. It shouldn’t be
her it should be me, is only half of the story, and many women just feel despondent, and quite frankly gave up
years ago.

Don’t like Valentines day!

I just don’t like Valentine’s Day! We all know people like this, heartbroken people who don’t believe in love anymore. Some kindness may help them return, but many forget that the day brings heartache and misery to so
many women, and during the pandemic you can feel the blow more than ever as everyone experiences some form
of loss. Many women have to forsake their zest for Valentine’s Day romance and just have to hate it, due to a
painful break- up, being trapped in spinsterhood or simply being single and unable to hold down a
relationship for more than three days. It’s interesting to note how society doesn’t care how they feel.

Tired of all the misery ? No more love songs?

Oh, I’m so sick of love songs, so tired of you. Sounds like Coronavirus again? No, it’s actually the opposite. Many people feel that Valentine’s Day is another rubbing the salt into their wounds type of situation, especially if they have been backstabbed more than once. When a person is heartbroken they can see
the world in a different way, and things that remind them of their heartbreak and loss can give them the same
emotional pain, such as leading to a headache, or feeling like you want to pig out and eat 4 tubs of ice- cream
watching movies, that are never about you, unless the local Church tells everyone to lie about your spinsterhood, and everybody pretends to ‘fancy you’, as again there is not real categorization for this within societal norms, and no official way of handling it and helping someone stuck.

It may even make you feel as if there is no such thing as true love. It may appear as a passing fad for many,
despite being traditionally celebrated each year, and just another cheap way of making money. Making money
through love and romance is a big business, and since the onset of choosing your own entertainment became
accessible to everyone, you will find that people’s ideas on (entertainment) may not be as wholesome as you once
have thought, and may veer on the gritty side of life, such as out-casting someone from their respective society and
paying for the ex- School friends to make cheap tapes that relay their abuse and taunts. What’s worse and very
common is a business which works as a neighbourhood watch scheme, keeping tabs on their victim, intercepting
post and tapping into their calls with police help. They pose as people concerned and find out everything about
you. When they find romance is on the cards, they trap the male in the same way and before you know it
someone who used to bully you at School gets the upper hand even on your boyfriend. It’s a lucrative business
where money is no object of affection for the victim they are all jointly preying on. They revel in the thought of
someone being left behind in life, especially an old School victim. Some would even go to the lengths of paying your local area a lump sum which covers secret parties, bad treatment in local stores and of course all forms of out-casting through the church and temples alike, who have heard a report from somewhere that you are a bad apple, using powers of priesthood, or just being a ‘prefect’.

Dread Valentine’s Day?

Many people simply dread the thought of Valentine’s Day. The cards, the balloons, and of course the presents. Incidences of domestic violence are reported to be more frequent after Valentine’s Day, with a staggering 40% increase directly after Valentine’s Day, and according to some stats, it seems people wait until Valentine’s Day, to file for divorce, considering what the partner does on the day. There is also small drop in domestic violence and dating violence incidences according to National Resource Centre on
Domestic Violence. The pattern of domestic violence is contained only slightly by Valentine’s Day, according to
the Psychologies Today website. Although these findings may seem miniscule and unimportant, it does indicate that domestic violence is lessened by a day celebrating love and romance, and respective cards, affections and presents, events out or even better a holiday or short break. It means that there is a simpler story to any Valentine’s Day upsets, and many relationships need a cure which asks to show love, and these couples may show each other only once a year. Waiting to divorce after Valentine’s Day, may not be a case of something more sinister or dangerous, but a simple cry for help, understanding or more care, and a possibility of forgiveness on Valentine’s Day.

Whatever you feel about your single status, love and relationships are filled with bitter tears too, so maybe you should revel in your freedom, and the chance to do whatever you want, without considering someone else. If anything, it’s a chance for you to dream about your own love-life, and use your time as a Single women, to get ready and prepare your own relationship one day, giving you time to perfect your own dreams. That means time to work on your looks, your dream career, anything that will make you a better catch. So don’t eschew Valentine’s Day, and start drinking, use the time wisely to better your chances of a great relationship.

Stuck in a rut with a black bow tied heart? Haven’t we all sometime? There’s nothing worse than the feeling of losing someone you deeply admire and love to someone better? Well, that’s life? It really shouldn’t be. When a crisis in love like this occurs, you should pull out all of the stops and investigate why you feel this way? You may have it all out of perspective. When you are in a great relationship there’s nothing better than the great times you spent together. Looking amazing on a night out, keeping the ticket in your jewelry box as a sentimental reminder and the smell of the perfume you wore that night. It all adds up, creating an unforgettable recollection in your mind. These are some of the special memories that spark romance further and can even make or break a great relationship. If the relationship has moments of simplicity too, like shopping together, sharing an ice- cream or a cigarette on a rainy day, and picking up the mess after a fight, then a break- up is even messier than usual as you were so damn lucky. The thought of losing your boyfriend to a woman who towers above you is probably one of the worst experiences you could go through, too. Especially if she looks like Giselle, and you can only look like a frump, because he’s made sure of it? Life has dealt you with the card of black death, and a black bow tied heart makes the tears even more poignant and heartbreaking. In the end all you will have is the faint echo of an audience who used to care, you think? That’s an example of how you can over- exaggerate a scenario like this in your head, and the ‘other’ girl always towers above you like Giselle if you see things in this way. When a relationship breaks down it’s natural for your heart to pang for the same magic even when things have come to a natural end. Throughout the relationship, memories such as the first date, the first time you smelt his aftershave are all stimuli within your brain which connect with the deep feelings of love experienced during that time. It may be seen by many Psychologists as a automatic response by the body to create feelings of loss and emotional pain to ensure you find a way to safe keep your love. It can also be seen as a fight or flight situation where a person can experience feelings of panic which lead to only two roads – starting a fight or fighting to get your love life back on track or simply running away – probably on the quickest flight out of the situation to clear the mind and find a remedy or simply leave. You can speak to a counsellor or find out more about experiencing panic attacks from your doctor, G.P or ask for a counselling appointment from your doctor who can refer you to a specialist. This is for severe cases of trauma or panic with feelings of depression, headaches. irregular heartbeat, difficulty breathing and wild feelings of panic which may even include suicide. The easiest initial option would be to take flight and leave your town immediately, where there are no traces of memories or any chances of walking over some automatic stimuli which reminds you of your relationship and swings you back to feelings of despair at not having your relationship intact. Ask yourself too why you feel this way? Why do you feel this bad? It may be reasons like I miss my boyfriend, I won’t find anything better, he won’t return to me. It may well be the very reason why you feel so depressed, hopeless, and full of despair. This accentuates your sense of loss and depression, and your feelings can get worse. Your palms may begin to sweat, your heartbeat may become erratic, and that simply makes you feel worse and worsens the script in your head. A script is an automatic response to loss, or any emotion which we create ourselves to get us through hard times, or simply understand life, or even enjoy ourselves more. It is formulated ourselves and is an automatic response and way of understanding what is going on around us. So, in summary it’s the stuff we tell ourselves, our own automatic script which is a sequence of codes and stimulus which leads to certain reactions and ways of thinking which leads to consequent actions. If you’re bow tied heart is in trouble, and the pain of a break- up is bringing you down, try and stop to assess the whole situation. Just stop and think! What exactly happened? Did he say something to upset you and make you understand things the wrong way around? Has he left you properly or are you on a break? Maybe he wants you to speak to him more, and beg him to return? Think about the situation and try and calmly clarify what happened, and then slowly assess the situation without judgement. Sometimes it’s important to confide in friends and family, and sometimes that’s the worst thing to do. If you have been in a relationship you can count on your partner to at least speak to you about what happened instead of their counsel as he has spent time in a relationship with you and has enjoyed your company, even for a short while. Ask to speak to him and tell him to tell you the truth. By now you should be able to assess the entire situation fully. You should be able to identify and pinpoint problem areas, and especially separate the big problems from the smaller insignificant ones. If your boyfriend claims that it’s not you it’s him, ask him further what he means. Re- assure him that you won’t fly off the handle and anything he tells you is between him and you. He may open up about why he’s breaking up with you, and what circumstances have bought this about? Ask him where the problem areas lie, for instance, it may be that you are about to embark on a romantic affair which may feel like a relationship but isn’t, and all you can think about is breaking up. That is just bad luck and doesn’t help things. Nobody wants that looming over their heads when going on a date, so why don’t you just lighten up and take things as they’re and simply enjoy yourself? You should identify other problems in this way too and use the same method. When you are ready you should realize which areas you need to work upon, which areas you can live without. Assess the whole situation, identify big problem areas and also smaller insignificant ones if you’re sensitive, sentimental or if they are simply a big deal for you and can’t be ignored. When you realise which areas upset you or hurt you or make you react in a certain way, then you can start to work out what to change and try and understand how to change those things. Some things you may destroy, and other others you may keep. With areas you are happy with in you’re life, try and vow to move forward with them too, and make adjustments so they are part of your future life with or without your boyfriend, and things you can update and refresh as things move forward. Whether you want to try again and move deeper into your relationship or split and create closure you need to understand how to vow to move forward with your upset and unsettled heart and how this will affect you and help you move forward properly How to get over heartbreak by New Year? Well, everybody has felt the cruel blow of rejection more than once in their life and have accepted it and well moved on. Life is tough, you just got to handle it. What? You couldn’t even dream of the handlebars of life available for more than half the world at any given time. Well first things first one must always ask what the problem is, and more importantly where the problem lies. Both these factors can be different and in opposition to each other. So, let’s take a problem in love and start from there. Anything you like said the Psychiatrist’s voice which is in my head and someone I I haven’t even met yet, like a fictional character who is just sweetly swish and a complete perfect initiation or prelude for what is inevitable to follow, the perfect lead-in for what is to commence. And what is to commence- a voice has to ask this, or else things get confusing in the mind’s eye, you know. Well, the problem is that I have just found out the boy crush I thought would one day be my boyfriend is now dating another frenemy posed as someone concerned about me to bag his friendship and then his ardent feelings for me. Let’s break it down and see if this can be resolved in 30 days’ time? So, calm down and clear up what happened? You should ask yourself questions like this? – Did I imagine what I saw today, is my problem real or me being paranoid? Maybe they were holding hands for another reason? Maybe they are just friends? When facing any problem, you should first identify what the problem is, to clear up the mess in your head, to help you find a solution and also to takeoff some of the confusion experienced especially in matters of the heart. Ask yourself how you really feel? Are you facing up to how depressed and helpless you feel? Or maybe you are making a mountain out of molehill? Maybe it’s a recurring problem because you deal with this the same way? Is there anything you can do to solve the problems or hurt you’re facing, or have you exhausted all options and are really stuck? These are the questions you should be asking about your emotional state during times of a crisis or emotional heartbreak. Can you give yourself a break? Can you afford a holiday where you can indulge your displaced emotional state? Have you got the time available to listen to some music that mirrors how you feel? Do you know how to let off steam in the gym? When a crisis occurs rushing to the gym to get your circulation pumping as well as a good clean could be a lifesaver sometimes, especially the comforting feeling of cleanliness you experience after exercise where serotonin levels are pumped up are accentuated by a clean body and the smell of perfume inside many good cleansing products such as shampoo, conditioner, moisturizer and good quality body sprays. Try something zingy and fresh smelling like products with the scent of tangerine sand lemons which are in harmony with increased serotonin levels, instead of soothing Camomile teas which although relax you can drag your feelings down further, unless you are livid and angry and need some much-needed clarity to assess your situation and what is upsetting you. Start a diary. For exactly 30 days write down everything you feel from start to finish. When things clear up, you’ll find it’s remarkable how you feel and what you can learn about yourself by reading in hindsight.

Heartbroken? You need a 4 week plan.

• Identify the problem
• Think of possible solutions
• Start working on ideas to solve issues
• Assess the results. If you are happy, continue, if not then move on.

Despite years of awareness, it seems that ‘date rape’ is still being silenced, somehow, with statistics showing that more and more Women are refraining from reporting such incidents of ‘rape’ to the police. Charging and convictions are also, at an all-time low. According to charity ‘Rape Crisis’ out of a total of 100 rape incidents, only 1% of victim’s came forward. Out of every six women, asked to report rape, at least five women, out of six, fail to report rape to the police. The results of a yougov survey of the British public in 2022, found that out of every ten women, only 1% reported any 'incidents of experiencing their drinks being spiked', and 40% of the UK believe that the police would not believe them if they reported a ‘drink spiking’ scenario to the police. Drink spiking can be counted as something associated with ‘date rape’ or ‘dating violence’, an assertion backed by the recent government survey of 2023, titled ‘Understand and Tackling Spiking’ conducted by The Home Office. Essentially, ‘spiking’ is when ‘someone has added something to your drink’ without your consent or permission. In some cases, specific ‘date rape drugs’ might be used to spike a drink before rape or sexual assault. Spiking someone’s drink is classed as something illegal, even if the victim is not attacked or assaulted. Date Rape drugs are almost invisible, with many victims claiming that they cannot taste or smell anything that would indicate that their drink has been tampered with something ‘date rape’ related. The victim is said to feel weak, confused and can lose their memory, and find it hard to sometimes describe how they feel after an incident, which could be crucial to getting help, or letting people know that they may be in danger. Drink spiking is not a new crime either, which makes you think about norms, standards and practices for many cultures, and for many centuries too. Curare, an ancient form of Amazonian poison is a 'dangerous' and lethal drug or poison, said to be used by hunters in their blow darts. It is said to leave victims completely paralysed, and unable to breathe. The drug is described as a neuro-transmitter drug, which mean it essentially blocks breathing, and works slowly to paralyse the body, blocking neuro-muscular activity within the body. This means it has a close relationship with the foundations of what can and can’t paralyse you. With a varying degree of expertise, Curare can successfully leave you unable to move if the concoction of drug, hits the spot. It begins its nightmare by paralysing the vocal cords, and then the tubes that help you breathe, meaning you can’t scream for help, or may find it hard to talk, before your breathing begins to leave you, and you become breathless. It then turns all Musculo-skeletal and relaxes muscles to such a degree that you can’t move or run. You may feel paralysed and need to sleep for years after an attack. It seems, it is a poison that has been used and known of for centuries. One of it’s earliest records, was with the expeditions of Sir Walter Raleigh. Edward Bancroft, a physician and chemist bought samples of crude curare to test, from 16th Century South America. Observational work, with Sir Benjamin Brodie too, concluded that curare can stop animals from breathing, and could paralyse the respiratory system, and muscles. Since 1943, the substance has been used widely within medicine as a neuro-muscular blocking drug, used with anaesthetic during surgery. There are very little in depth reports or studies into drink spiking, which keeps the issue hidden. Lack of detail and depth into the issue, means that it is hard to classify and categorise anything, and the onus lies with an ‘expert’. In December last year, research conducted by the NSPCC looked into the matter. Their statistics showed that most ‘drink spiking’ problems affected women more than males. They also found at least 74% of women were in this category, and that drink spiking was common to a specific age, which was 26 year old women, which was quite alarming. Most drink spiking problems were found to be in bars, nightclubs or other pubs, but most notable was that nightclubs or bars, with lower standards such as cheaper entry, and cheap drinks, were much more at risk. Bars were more at risk of drink spiking problems than nightclubs too. Further to this, some examples of drink spiking could be found in other residential areas such as private house parties., where groups of friends gather to party. According to the same report, ‘The proportion of offences in nightclubs which featured spiking via needle was higher (38%) compared to drink spiking (17%) indicating offenders may be taking advantage of more crowded and loud venues to facilitate needle spiking offending’. The most interesting information, was of these incidences being more common in hugely crowded areas. At the moment, levels of prosecution for drink spiking is low. In the same report, :’Results from the Police's rapid urine screening capability shows that in those cases where a urine sample has been taken, 5% of those suggest that spiking has occurred – though the drugs being used tend to be those more associated with the night-time economy, rather than traditional ‘date-rape’ drugs. The majority (53%) of samples tested contained a drug of no concern or no drug at all. However, these tests cannot identify whether someone has been spiked with additional alcohol, and if a victim does not feel confident to report straight away. This could be because it could be, that the drugs used, have left their system at the point they are tested’. At this point, it seems suspicious that the police fail to use online rape tests to check why a victim fails to report a problem like this, and also the victim’s health, as the adverse reaction to being spiked may still be in their system. There is good news, however, as more funds are being spent on areas to help tackle street crime, especially for women. Investment of over £120 million is being spent within this area, which means better services, additional safe keeping such as more installation of CCTV cameras. With this in mind, better access to public services should be key, for all victims, men and women.

Experiencing heartbreak during Valentine’s Day can cut deeply, it may be something you remember for years later. The red roses, always in deep red, the expensive chocolates, and the endless choice in cards and fluffy toys. That’s just the start. Start planning today to avoid the blues, and black love hearts, which only symbolise a broken heart. 

”The course of true love never did run smooth” – William Shakespeare

Experiencing heartbreak during Valentine’s Day can cut deeply, it may be something you remember for years later. The red roses, always in deep red, the expensive chocolates, and the endless choice in cards and fluffy toys. That’s just the start. Looking amazing, and smelling beautiful on Valentine’s Day can crush you on the 14th February if you don’t have someone’s hand to hold, or even worse if you’ve got a black bow tied heart, bursting with pain and heartbreak. I don’t know why she’s wearing black mascara, that’s the look that ‘encapsulates heartbreak’, but I suppose Valentine’s Day is a day ‘for him’ to make amends, for a few slights that year. The knives in a heartbroken girls stomach just cut deeper. So how do you get through the ‘heartbreak’ on Valentine’s Day? With an average of 145 million cards sent within the UK each Valentine’s Day, and over one billion cards sent globally each year, it is only just topped by Christmas Day, which is again ‘double’ the amount. It’s hard to avoid, and extremely embarrassing, and ‘sulking’ about the romantic affair, just makes things worse. The smell of roses for countless women just means tears, and silent tantrums, ones which won’t be indulged by anyone, unless you are a ‘Valentine’s Day’ girl, spoilt with a thousand presents she doesn’t want. So how do you get through, if this year turmoil, heartbreak, emptiness and thoughts of ‘self-harm’ are you’re only companion for the day? What do you do if you ‘just can’t get him off you’re mind’, when he’s no longer yours, or even worse someone else’s? 'No Valentine’s day’, is a real problem. There is no real categorization for the problem many women face each year, as the situation isn’t tangible or easy to describe unless there’s some ‘real trouble’, such as a sequence of arrests, or admittance to A&E, something medical or criminal. Valentine’s Day arrests too, are about people in stable relationships, and not the ones missing out, with criminal ‘couples being placed in handcuff’s’ as they enjoyed their Valentine’s Day meal. Even Al Capone understood the importance of Valentine’s Day, using a staged massacre to ‘make his people’ understand, as the celebrations and gimmicks took centre stage, during the earlier parts of the last century. The Valentine’s Day massacre was a criminal stunt to stamp that the ‘mafia is serious’. What better way than Valentine’s Day? Even serious sulking is for ‘happy couples’ with crimes of passion needing ‘two to tango’ on most days, ringing true on Valentine’s Day too. Stats show that infidelity gets exposed most during the Valentine’s Day period, when lame ‘it’s me not you texts’, just create suspicion and paranoia, leading to partners rooting out ‘what is what’, pushing more boundaries than usual to find out why they feel ‘unloved’ and not ‘cherished’ enough. This again can embroil feelings of passion and love into ‘revenge attacks’ which can involve crime or other ‘infidelities’, which again lead to crimes to upset their partners. Again another tête-à-tête, which is blown out of proportion on Valentine’s Day, as is the case each year. No room for spinsters or the heartbroken then, better to ‘just join them’ and go window shopping, and prepare and anticipate for the day you get your own ‘prospects’ for your own love life one day, and maybe a Valentine’s Day card.

So how can you get through a broken heart on Valentine’s Day?

1. Throw yourself into your career – there’s nothing worse than the feeling of having no love life, a broken heart or experiencing a break-up. Most of the time, let’s face it, nothing can take your mind off things, or make you feel better. A rewarding career, or sense of purpose, or some charity work you really enjoy can however steer you in the right direction, for a short while.

2. Listen to your favourite music – it can bring out more memories or deep rooted feelings, but it can also heal.

3. Watch a ‘Chick Flick’ – Again, it can be as cathartic as you want. Depending on how much time you spend dwelling on the ‘perfect ice-cream’ flavour, and which syrup would suit? Sounds like a fatty? Well, being fussy about what you eat is important when ‘heartbroken’, and indulging yourself is exactly what you need. Remember, most of your happiness depends on yourself, and our own efforts, and you can’t blame others for how miserable you may feel. Your choice ‘flick’ is important too, it reminds you how you feel, is a signal to the brain that your female side needs some consideration, answers, advice and careful attention at some point. It also helps you connect with how you feel, and your deepest wishes as a woman which may be a wish for romance, attention, emotional connection or something to think about. Whatever it is, movie makers understand this, so give it a try, even if you have more than a million times.

4. Change your image – Try a pixie crop, or dye your hair. Changing your appearance means a change in people’s perceptions of you and how they see you, judge and analyse you, even on first impressions. This could be a breath of fresh air for a few days, especially during Valentine’s Day, where a new door can open to new possibilities with new men, who are attracted to different type of women.

5. Go to the gym – Working out can really stave off the blues. A good workout can clear your mind, help you feel fresher, give you more energy and improve your mood. It can also help you clarify what is bothering you, and as your body feels stronger, you should understand you may be able to read your intuition with more sense. Maybe the heartbreak is covering up a ‘bad feeling’ in the pit of your stomach, and some time in the gym can clear up some of the clouds.

6. Arrange a date yourself – get proactive and use a dating site, visit some friends or go on a dating event which can help you meet people. You can even arrange you’re own party, and invite similar people.

7. Send someone a Valentine’s Day card – if the worse comes to the worst, send someone a Valentine’s Day card, to keep your mind off being single, divorced or someone experiencing a break-up. Be someone’s secret admirer, or help someone else get together helps heal deep pain, as mulling over bad feelings and sentiments can catapult you onto a vicious circle, which can simply make you feel worse right at the end. Being someone’s secret admirer for Valentine’s Day means you can be included in all the fun too, you never know he might be interested.

8. Visit a comedy club – the rush and excitement of seeing so many people will exhilarate you, and although there may be many couple’s out that night, you can still enjoy yourself through live comedy. Getting dressed up and going out on the town, will help you feel better, and laughing staves off deep feelings of love and despondency.

9. Read a love story – Reading a love story like Cinderella, can help keep away the blues. The story sees a character go through trials and tribulations, and is vindicated in the end. It keep your spirits up and help you cling on to the moral of the story, that everyone deserves a happy ending, and that staying true to your good side is worth it. Even making a wish for a great love story is better than getting too wrapped up in a situation which is tricky to change.

10. Visit the theatre. Again like visiting a comedy club, the crowds can lift your mood and excitement, as well as what you go to see. Ballet and Opera can take your mind off nearly anything, and other shows are ‘mood lifters’ too.

What is the hidden mystique? Why are people so hypnotized? It’s no secret that everybody loves a great perfume advert. The distinction in taste, the visual imagery and the intoxicating feeling you get after watching a short advert lasting perhaps for only a few seconds to a minute. Many people compare the feeling of watching a great perfume advert as the same of falling in love or driving a fast sports car as fast as you like, and at your own heart’s desire, free from the chains of life for a short space in time. This is especially true after experiencing Le Parfum by Ellie Saab, and the skillful genius of what they call the Director’s cut. Simply mesmerising! Like Cinderella leaving the ball at midnight. Who could forget the first time you saw the Mon Paris advert or of course Eternity and the sequence of adverts which followed from Calvin Klein catapulting them onto the scene in a way you could never dream of again. The simple imagery, the simple logo, and an ocean of possibilities and meanings in the mind’s eye. The Eternity advert was minimalism in a nutshell, one which grew into further branches, and created a new sub-culture which is still part of people’s lives even today. After a debauched decade of over-spending, credit cards, ostentatious attire and clothing,  ‘living for the moment', and whatever it was, ‘just take it’ that was the attitude to life. Then, of course there was a change of tides, as the bare faced Kate Moss arrived on the scene within an advert called Eternity by Calvin Klein. The mood was grey skies, big bundling white cotton clouds and an expansive and deep Ocean, washing away the mistakes of the previous decade and clearing the air for a new path – one which still hasn’t died. The words waif, anorexic, and clear mascara were in, and people began to breath fresh air again, ditching vol au vents breakfasts for some clean water and dieting. People asked what was the secret? Capricorn, goats, Kate Moss and clear nail varnish were more than important, aswell as the infamous CK shopping bag, which everybody wanted. A new cultured society formed, which realized less is more, and ‘no make-up’ would be their future ‘truths’.  Spellbound, people began to remove the pink eyeshadow from their beauty cupboards and ditched the expensive perm, an opted for the dream within the dream, and wanted to secretly re-live the few moments of ‘bliss’ experienced through the ‘Eternity’ advert. It was as big as Elvis, MTV, and the ipod. So why are perfume adverts so mesmerizing? It would probably be the effort and care put into the adverts, which represent and symbolize modern luxury and the materialism on offer at the time, the things money can buy. The perfect images, and perfect faces too, create an unmistakable memory within people’s minds, one which turns into spending habits, established choices in consumerism and much, much more. Deep down perfume adverts are as mesmerizing as the perfume itself, and the only limit is the viewers imagination, and the Director’s cut according to his or her own secret garden.  So how do you say Dior? Perhaps we can take a look at some other types of 'grand adverts', and look at beauty products too?